Sunday, April 28, 2013

Chores for CB

I'm a firm believer in chores. Not so much to earn an allowance, but to instill a sense of responsibility and partnership in helping your family at home. Since young children love "helping" out, it was easy to capitalize on that desire at a very early age and help Choi Boy develop the routine of doing his chores.

For example, CB has always loved helping with the laundry and helps by putting clothes into the washer and pulling clothes out of the dryer. He also likes to pour detergent into the washer and he firmly believes it is his job to press the "play" button on both the washer and dryer. He also loves Swiffer-ing the hardwood floors and loves to have a turn after I've done an initial sweep. While both of those examples require direct adult guidance and set-up, we've also been working on chores that CB can do with near complete independence.

When Choi Boy came home at 15 months, he had good comprehension of things we were saying and was able to understand simple one-step directions like, "Put your shirt in the hamper." That soon became one of his jobs and he knows that it is his job to put his dirty clothes in his hamper. Now at three and a half, he also asks whether his clothes go in the hamper or on top, since he re-wears some pieces of clothing (pajamas for 2 nights, jeans and sweatshirts for 2 or 3 wears, etc).

As his physical ability and agility developed, we added more to the list of chores he is able and expected to with little to no help. When introducing the idea of independent chores to CB, we framed it by telling him that these would be ways for him to help his family. We told him that we all have jobs outside the house (his being going to school) and that we also have jobs inside the house. We also told him that since he was able to do so much more, we were trusting him with doing these jobs because we knew he could do them and do them well.
I toyed with the idea of creating an actual chore chart, but in the end decided that right now it might be more work for him and me to keep up the routine of a chore chart since he does so well either remembering his jobs on his own or does them with one reminder. I think when CB is older and able to handle chores that are more specific and less time-dependent (for example, vacuuming or dusting) and/or he is able to read and keep track of time and days of the week (for chores like "take the recycling out on Thursday"), we will implement a chore chart.

So, what are CB's chores? At three and a half, he has 4 "major" chores in addition to small responsibilities such as getting dressed or putting his dirty clothes in the hamper. His current jobs are: setting the table (this is also a great way to practice counting and sorting!); wiping the table with a wet cloth after meals -- he does the initial wipe to take care of the crumbs and then I do another wipe with cleaner; keeping his shoes lined up and orderly on the stairs (our tiny garage does not have enough space for all of our shoes and since we are a shoe-free house, keeping them on the stairs helps CB quickly get his shoes on before leaving the house); and feeding the dog before breakfast and dinner.
All of these chores are ones that CB can do independently and without much supervision (except when he's standing on the chair like that!). He is so proud that he can help in these ways and takes great care in doing his jobs. We did have some issues with him feeding the dog (because it was just too tempting not play around with all that kibble!), so he lost the "privilege" of doing that chore for a few days and once he "earned" it back, he has shown greater responsibility and restraint when scooping our pup's kibble. ;) Funny story, CB truly does take pride in being able to care for our dog and has been overheard many times saying things like, "Be patient, girl...I have to help you because you don't have arms, okay?"

We'll continue to build on this list of chores as CB grows older and we hope that it continues to build a sense of responsibility in our little dude. I'm sure there'll come a day that CB will see these chores as, well, a chore, but our hope is that even then, the idea of helping at home will be so ingrained in him that he'll do them anyway without much of a fight. (Haha...I can just picture a middle school-aged CB just rolling his eyes at that!)

What are some ways your kiddo helps around your home?


  1. I loved this!!! We have chores here too, but it's been a challenge recently since one of Spencer's classmates introduced him to the concept of "allowance" which we are not giving yet. Anyway... Spencer has some of the same chores (Although he also uses the cleaner now that I have a bottle of vinegar and water for him) but we also include brushing teeth, picking up toys, etc on the chart so he has some easy "wins" on rough days.

  2. I so totally agree! My little one turned two in January. It's her job to put her clothes in the hamper every night and to feed the cats (with supervision) their breaksfast every morning. She also helps lay the table for supper. She's at the age where she loves to help. Fingers crossed she will always be enthusiastic about lending a helping hand because this mom will expect it! :-)

  3. Smart woman - I've attempted chores - but nothing seems to last long term. I think I need a sticker chart for inspiration.

  4. This is great! We need to get more serious on this front. Max is TERRIBLE about picking up his toys and we often give up and do most of it ourselves. I feel like such a failure in this dept. My mom was BIG on chores when we were growing up and I agree, it's a great thing for kids. To be honest, it's hard to think of chores for a 3 year old that don't result in more work for me ... sigh. Need to just suck it up though.

  5. i love your posts! you're a great mom and teacher :)
    if i have kids in the future, i'm definitely going to re-read some of your posts!!
    hope you guys are doing well~

  6. love this. i have sooo much to learn. toby just turned two and he loves to help but i haven't really given it much thought or structure and what you have done is inspiring me. yay! thanks.


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